“Finding Mr. Righteous” is not a book about politics. It’s a memoir by Lisa De Pasquale about her search for ‘the one’ and ultimately an examination of how her faith changed and developed along the way. All of this is done with a fantastic sense of humor and awareness that leaves the reader conscious that this is a real person telling you about her life rather than the feeling of being preached to by a disembodied voice.
“As noted philosopher Bridget Jones said, “It is a truth universally acknowledged that when one part of your life starts going okay, another falls spectacularly to pieces.”
Before this book I really didn’t know who Lisa De Pasquale was, but when I heard that there was a memoir about a Conservative woman and the struggles of relationships I knew that it was one I would have to read. I don’t know about you, but I usually come up short when trying to find books that successfully merge non-political subject matter with a Conservative point of view. There are plenty of well-written books discussing society, politics, and culture from a Right perspective, but many of them are all about the issues and not about the life of an individual.
“It wasn’t unrequited love, but an unrequited life.”
De Pasquale accomplishes what so many fail to do, she offers a realistic portrayal of a Conservative woman. Let’s be honest, the representation of ladies on the Right in any form of entertainment is a caricature at best, we’re all reduced to soft-spoken dingbats, gun-toting crazies, or Sarah Palin. In “Finding Mr. Righteous” you see a woman who also happens to be a Conservative, the usual stereotypes are nowhere in sight. Instead we are presented with a protagonist that many women, Right or Left, Christian or Atheist, can identify with.
“But having one views wasn’t enough for him. He had to denigrate the opposing view.”
De Pasquale dates her way through a small variety of men, all of which subscribe to different sets of values, along the way you can find at least one relationship to relate to, romantic or not. I was surprised at the amount of times I thought, “oh yeah, I’ve been through something like that.” Anyone who has had a relationship can take something away from this book. The pace is quick and the narrative alternates between making you laugh out loud, ache with sympathy, or sting from second hand embarrassment. When I finished reading there was a part of me that wanted to send highlighted copies to men in my life with notes reading, “this is how you behave.”
“I’m not that great at reading cues from men, but men will generally tell you who they are. The cheaters say something like, “Women are my weakness.” The alcoholics say, “I need to cut back on my drinking.” Every other issue is covered by “You’re out of my league.” Depending on what the issue is (too short, underemployed, intimidated by beautiful, conservative Twitter-famous women), a girl can learn to work around on it.”
“Finding Mr. Righteous” is a great read and would be perfect for an autumn weekend inside.