This article has been out for a while now, and many people have weighed in. I have read it multiple times; each time makes me even more furious than the last. To sum up this writers POV, she thinks making a home cooked meal every night is too taxing for, beneath, and/or nearly impossible for moms to do.
Yep, feeding your kids healthy food is too hard, so we moms should just throw in the towel.
The entire tone of the article is a litany of excuses for us poor, over worked, stressed out moms so we don’t have to cook. Well, allow me to retort.
First of all, I enjoy planning a meal for my family. It’s fun looking through recipes and my pantry and seeing what I CAN make! It’s like a game. “What can I make without having to go to the grocery store for the 5th time this week?” Oh, you can get really creative when motivated like that!
Second, yes, kids are picky eaters. However, why should that stop me from creating a meal the MAJORITY of the family likes? There is always a hold out at my table. My rule is simple. You can either eat what I made, make something yourself or don’t eat. Tah dah!!!! Problem solved, no mess no fuss!
Third, for those women trying to raise their children in a cramped, bug/mice filled apartment with only a microwave, I seriously doubt their largest stress is what they are making for dinner. Having options greatly reduced for them is probably a bigger concern. And I am pretty sure they are more worried about money, disease and trying to keep ANY food in their residence.
Finally, family meals are a time to sit around the table and talk. This is where I find out what my kids did that day which was great and not so great. Laughter spontaneously erupts so often, the occasional grumpiness is forgotten. My kids learn how to set the table, pour drinks, keep their elbows off the table, allow others to speak, ask insightful questions, be thankful for what we do have and to thank God for this time together. How could any of that be a bad thing?
Cooking is a family event that teaches math skills, creativity and a life skill my kids will need as they prepare to become adults. My husband and I also talk about the cost of a meal made at home vs purchased elsewhere. It’s fun to see the kids realize how much money we save by making meals at home!
Telling people to give up this proven method to increase health, decrease cost and improve family relationships is irresponsible at best and downright cruel at worst.
A better piece of advice this author should have given was to invest in a crock pot! Talk about a stress reliever! In fact, if you have limited space and funds, a crock pot is a way better investment than a microwave IMO.
No matter what, can we STAHP telling moms to give up being moms please? I knew what I was signing up for when I became a mom. One of my many hats is family chef, and I wear it proudly!
Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have a chicken/potato/veggie thing to pop in the oven for dinner tonight. It might take me 15 minutes to prepare…hope I can power through!